Kathryn Lovewell’s ten top tips for teachers

Teaching can be an exhausting job but there are moments of pure joy. How can teachers make the most of those? Wellbeing specialist Kathryn Lovewell gives us her tips for staying happy while working as a school teacher.
1 Experience something wonderful every day… and share it
Schools ought to be places of wonder and magic, not drudgery. After all, as a teacher you are facilitating learning and growth. So you need to remember what you find wonderful and magical, whether it is something miraculous from the natural world, some technological marvel, some amazing human feat. Aim to inspire learners with what inspires you.
2 Remember which parts of the job you enjoy
Some of the tasks you undertake in school will bring you pleasure and satisfaction, some will not. Identify which aspects of teaching you love. Look forward to them. Relish them! Notice what you learn from the less inspiring tasks: perseverance; determination; self discipline – all qualities you hope to inspire in your students!
3 Be realistic in your expectations of yourself
Your expectations of yourself determine your view of your professional role. The pressure on you to achieve results is high, regardless of the starting point of your students. Potentially, that can affect your attitude. Make your own expectations realistic; praise yourself where progress or achievement has occurred and give yourself a break when things don’t quite work out the way you’d hoped. Keep your attitude and expectations healthy and balanced.
4 Support your colleagues
Resilient teachers work in supportive and collaborative organisations. A simple yet powerful way you can support your colleagues is by offering authentic praise and constructive feedback. Notice the things a colleague does particularly well. Tell them and replicate their good practice.
5 Treasure the praise you receive
People admire teachers, despite the unsympathetic view taken by the media. It is a complex job. Not only do you teach your subject matter, you also inspire young people, even when they’re disengaged, while managing the emotional wellbeing of your class and yourself! When a parent, colleague or student comments positively on your work, this is high praise. Acknowledge it, receive it and enjoy it!
6 Notice when your colleagues are stressed and take gentle action
When human beings are not coping, there are a few basic behaviours that mean they could need your support.
They hide. When you haven’t seen a colleague in the staffroom for a week, that’s when it’s time to seek them out!
They retreat. One of the biggest signals is rushing. When your colleagues just haven’t got a second to talk, help them slow down.
They put on a mask. In my first school, we used to joke that if a colleague had lots of make-up on, it meant that they were struggling. It was almost like a mask that projected the facade of ‘yes, I’m really together today’. That was a really interesting learning curve for me. I’d say, “Oh, you look wonderful today” and they’d say “Yes, that’s because I’m on my knees!”
7 Communicate compassionately about change
The keys to improving an institution are (i) healthy, supportive communication and (ii) appreciation. Organisational changes are rarely welcomed; they are inconvenient in the short term. If managers consult teachers, explaining why a change will be valuable long-term, the change will be received with less resistance. Understanding leads to appreciation of a different point of view. This develops consideration and compassion for the other party.
8 Keep momentos of professional triumphs
The first form that I ever had was a mixed ability year nine group and almost all of them had quite low self-esteem. The most magical moment was when they presented me with a letter they had written at the end of the year, saying I had inspired them to believe in themselves. I will hold that dear to my heart always.
Later, as an art teacher, I taught a really unhappy year ten boy with a very challenging home life. The breakthrough came when he made a beautiful clay piece and allowed me to photograph him with. He was beaming because he had discovered something he was good at and he recognised his piece was one of the best in the class. He destroyed his work soon after, but I still have the picture.
9 Actively change your state of mind when you go home
Take responsibility for your own needs when you go home. This may mean working concertedly at changing your state of mind after a hard day. Take fresh air, exercise or enjoy a nice, hot bath. By doing something that feeds your heart, you equip yourself to let go of all of your anxiety, so you can start the next day fresh.
10 Act early to seek professional support if something worries you
Teachers must be socially and emotionally competent; emotionally and mentally resilient. To achieve and maintain this, they must get support as soon as they become aware of any problem that may become out of control.
Teaching is an emotional rollercoaster and they don’t teach newly trained teachers how to manage their wellbeing. So, many teachers don’t know how to deal with the personal consequences of encountering a student who is suicidal, for instance, nor how to cope with a student who hates themselves so much, they stop eating. These things bring feelings of powerlessness and the school structure doesn’t provide space to address this. Some teachers know that many of their students go home to violence. That is a huge thing for a teacher to cope with, never mind the pressures of exams, league tables and the criticism about teachers in the media.
That is why Teacher Support Network is so important. It is an independent agency that knows what you’re talking about and has the resources to help you.
I wish I had known about Teacher Support Network when I started teaching! It is vital.
Kathryn Lovewell’s book Every Teacher Matters is on sale now at Amazon
Comments
Against the tide...
Good tips, thanks. I used to put an inspiring quote for the day on the board in the office, which my team really liked - until my executive head banned it...
Inspire them anyway!
Hi Lamont, Very sad to hear your Head banned your inspiring quote for the day. Did he/she give a reason? It always saddens me to hear examples like yours, but please don't stop! Be yourself, bring sunshine where there are stormy clouds and keep inspiring others to focus on the magic in life. Rainbows are magic - you bring colour to grey places, without you life would be oh so very dull. And what's more - you just never know the positive and powerful impact you have on someone's heart. Find a way. There's always a way..... x
Point 9 - changing your state of mind at home
This is the area of teaching I found most difficult to cope with - how can we change our mind state when we take so much of our work home with us? The hours of planning,assessment paperwork/online forms, forms for governers checking our compitence, writing analyses of training undertaken, making resources. My children hardly saw me, my friends thought I had moved away from the area, my family grew worried about my health and it escalated the breakdown of my marriage. I then suffered severe anxiety because no matter how much time and effort I put into my career it never seemed enough. At this present time I am not working - I await my daughter's liver transplant and I am the live donor - It is because I have come right out of teaching that I can see how life consuming the profession is. I want to return to the classroom but I am wary about the pressure returning to teaching - It's a choice between life and profession - no balance.
Goodness - I have so much
Goodness - I have so much respect and admiration for both you and your family. With the strong and determined character you have already shown I know our teaching profession has a fine advocate in yourself. Please treat yourself kindly. You have already achieved so much more than most.My best wishes for a successful future.
Support
I feel your pain and frustration. You have so much to contend with right now. My advice is to be fully present with what you need to do right now - support yourself and your daughter. Teaching can definitely be all consuming. I learnt that the hard way in my first year of teaching and ended up under the knife myself. Spend time taking care of yourself and listen to what your heart would really love. There is a way to be in the classroom and still have a life. It is extraordinary that you are about to save a life. You are amazing! When you are fully fit, you can choose to enjoy teaching on your terms - maybe part time? Be loving and gentle with yourself. It is not the right time to be fretting over career decisions. Wishing you all the best for a successful transplant. With love, K x
Science
"Schools ought to be places of wonder and magic, not drudgery." What a wonderful quote for my head teachers wall, although I doubt it would be taken on board. Why is it that in people focussed institutions SLT care so little for the drudgery and misery they heap upon "their" staff.
Compassion!
Hi Drew, I know it may seem that way, but I train Head Teachers and their SLTs and they are feeling it too. I agree their focus often seems miserable, but the bottom line is they have the weight of responsibility for a vast number of children. If you can, avoid making asumptions and inspire them with your wonder and magic! You never know where it may lead... Keep sparkling, K x
top tips
thank you for such an inspiring and informed piece. It is always encouraging when you know the person writing understands where you are and where you have to be.i shall be trying a few of these out - starting now and will also pass onto a few others.
Top Tips really worth practise!
Wonderful Annette! I'm thrilled it has helped. Let me know how you go with those top tips. The more you practise the easier it will be to cope with crisis in the classroom and feel calm and centred no matter what! Good luck, K x
Thank you!
I'd been feeling negative about teaching but you've reminded me to hold onto the positives such as when I student commented on how much I had helped them enjoy English to a prospective parent at open evening. That's why I went into teaching and why I should stay in it.
Focus on what you love!
That's great Zoe. When you focus on what feeds your heart you will feel stronger and clearer to manage the tough stuff. You and your students will benefit from this positive shift! Stay focussed on what you love about teaching. K x
Thank you
I've just read your tips for teachers and really liked the positive and supportive advice, I've just printed off a copy for the staffroom and hope that others will take on board some of the advice. What a change for good would occur. I'm going to ask the HT if we can buy the book for the staffroom bookshelf.
Many thanks